The Vanishing Breed: Leadership in the Age of Mediocrity.

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A friend of mine sent the image. Made me think.

There was a time when leadership meant something—when those at the helm were more than just managers checking boxes, more than just figureheads playing it safe. They inspired, they motivated, they led with conviction and courage. They built trust and empowered people, pushing them to be better, not just to comply. That era, at least from what I have seen, is gone. Leadership today? A shadow of its former self, diluted, performative, and, in most cases, utterly uninspiring.

I look back at my career, spanning decades, where I had the privilege of working under truly exceptional leaders. Out of the twenty or more managers I served, only a couple fell short. The rest? They led with a kind of radical candor that is extinct today. They trusted their teams, empowered them, and were brutally blunt when needed—but always in a way that made you want to do better. Their delegation was so complete that it often left me double-checking my own work, not out of fear, but out of sheer respect for the trust they placed in me. Their belief in themselves and their people was absolute.

Today, that is a fantasy. Leadership has been reduced to a game of optics, risk aversion, and mindless compliance. It is more about following trends, checking diversity quotas, and maintaining a politically correct image than it is about actually driving vision and excellence. The result? A workforce that is disillusioned, disengaged, and on the verge of collapse—both physically and mentally. No wonder studies show that 77% of employees experience burnout. When leadership is weak, the entire system crumbles.

And this isn’t just a corporate phenomenon. Look at the political landscape. Where are the inspiring leaders? Where are the figures who command respect, who stand firm on their beliefs, who act with integrity? At best, you’ll find a handful who barely scrape past mediocrity. Even Donald Trump, for all his strengths, might score just 35% on the leadership scale—which is still significantly higher than the rest, who are mere ciphers, placeholders in suits.

What happened? How did we get here?

The Decline of Leadership: A Few Reasons

1. Fear-Driven Leadership – Today’s leaders are paralysed by the fear of making mistakes. Whether it’s the threat of social media backlash, lawsuits, or political correctness, they avoid tough decisions and take the safest, least impactful route.

2. Performance Metrics Over People – Leadership has become a numbers game. Instead of focusing on growth, development, and empowerment, it’s all about KPIs, compliance checklists, and maintaining a politically convenient image.

3. Short-Term Mindset – The obsession with quarterly results has destroyed long-term thinking. Leaders are incentivized to deliver quick wins rather than build lasting legacies.

4. Lack of Mentorship and Strong Role Models – Great leaders of the past were shaped by other great leaders. Today, that cycle is broken. Leadership is now more about networking and ‘managing up’ than it is about actually inspiring and building competent teams.

5. Mediocrity in Hiring and Promotions – With diversity and caste factors playing a role in leadership selection, there is less emphasis on competence and more on optics. The best people often don’t make it to the top.

Kaliyug: The Age of Decline

It’s no wonder that we are seeing the real-life manifestation of Kaliyug—the age where good deeds, thoughts, and leadership traits are on the path to extinction. When mediocrity is not only tolerated but actively rewarded, the decline is inevitable. What makes it even more tragic is that future generations will suffer the most. They will inherit a world where leadership is a façade, where genuine empowerment is replaced with tokenism, and where inspiration is a relic of the past.

What’s Next?

At this stage in my life, I have bailed out. Not because I have lost hope, but because I refuse to engage with a system that no longer values excellence. I feel sorry for the generations that will struggle in this climate, trapped in workplaces and societies led by uninspiring, weak-willed figures.

But perhaps, like all cycles, this too will change. Maybe, after enough suffering, after enough failures, the world will once again recognise the value of real leadership. Until then, those of us who remember what it was like when leaders truly led can only watch from the sidelines, hoping that someday, excellence will make a return.

Until then, mediocrity reigns. And leadership, as we once knew it, is no more.

Karthik

7th March 2025

830am. 

Lessons for Indian Leaders from Trump-Vance's Handling of Zelensky.

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The recent meeting between Donald Trump, JD Vance, and Ukraine’s President Volodymyr Zelensky at the White House, last Friday, has many valuable lessons for Indian managers, business and other leaders. The way Trump and Vance handled the conversation exposed Zelensky’s miscalculations, which ultimately weakened his position. Indian corporate leaders can take away key insights from this episode to navigate their own business and professional environments more effectively. Here are the lessons:

1. Dress for Success – You Can Always Dress Down Later

One of the most striking mistakes Zelensky made was showing up in his usual military-style outfit despite being advised to wear a suit. In professional settings, appearances matter. First impressions can set the tone of a meeting. A well-dressed leader commands respect. You can always remove a tie or jacket if needed, but underdressing in a formal setting shows a lack of awareness. Indian professionals should remember – when in Rome, be a Roman. Respect the setting, and dress accordingly. 

2. Know When to Argue, Know When to Accept

Zelensky pushed his points multiple times despite clear indications that Trump and Vance were not going to budge. You can present your case and resist once or twice, but if the decision-maker does not agree, you need to move on. Arguing endlessly only weakens your position. Indian professionals must recognize that while logic and reasoning are important, once a leader has made a decision, it is best to align with it rather than fight a losing battle.

3. Don’t Get Misled by Your Inner Circle

Zelensky was influenced by Democrat congressmen, failing to recognize the shift in U.S. leadership. He assumed that the same approach that worked with Biden would work with Trump. Indian managers often make the same mistake by relying too much on their advisors without assessing changes in leadership. A new leader means new priorities, and adapting to them is key to survival and success.

4. Past Success Does Not Guarantee Future Success

Zelensky believed he could use the same tactics he employed with Biden – playing victim, making demands, and expecting unquestioned support. However, Trump and JD Vance operate differently. In business, what worked in the past may not work today. Indian companies need to stay agile and adapt their strategies as per the new leadership, market changes, and global shifts.

5. Respect Hierarchy and Protocol

One of the biggest blunders Zelensky made was addressing JD Vance as 'JD' instead of ‘Mr. Vice President.’ In high-level negotiations and official meetings, informality can be a costly mistake. In India, too, managers must maintain professionalism in formal discussions. Familiarity should not override the decorum of the situation.

6. Stick to the Agenda – Don’t Flip-flop

Before leaving Kyiv, Zelensky had agreed to discuss mineral extraction with the U.S. leadership. However, after speaking to U.S. Senators, he changed his stance. This move backfired. It showed inconsistency and a lack of commitment. Indian business leaders should learn that once an agenda is agreed upon, last-minute changes weaken trust and credibility.

7. Rigid Thinking Leads to Failure

Zelensky’s rigid stance of refusing to engage in talks with Putin is taking Ukraine nowhere. In business and leadership, refusing to negotiate or compromise can be disastrous. Trump aims for global peace, and he expects Ukraine to seek a resolution instead of dragging the conflict indefinitely. Indian managers must recognize that flexibility and strategic thinking are necessary for long-term success.

8. Think Strategically – Begin with the End in Mind

Zelensky failed to apply fundamental leadership principles: Think Win-Win, Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Instead of understanding Trump's stance and adjusting his approach, he stubbornly stuck to his old ways. In India, leaders must embrace a strategic mindset. Understanding the bigger picture, assessing the situation realistically, and focusing on sustainable outcomes are essential.

Final Thoughts

Zelensky’s missteps in this meeting offer important insights for Indian professionals and leaders. Whether in politics or business, success depends on adaptability, respect for hierarchy, strategic thinking, and professional conduct. Indian managers and business leaders should learn from these lessons and apply them in their professional journeys to navigate leadership changes, negotiations, and corporate diplomacy with skill and tact.

End Note

I am not a Vladimir Putin fan. In the current situation, Zelensky has been weakened with the progress of the Russian military. ( I am not going in to why the war / Special Military operations, started in the first place) He is also now governing under Martial Law, (His term in office is over about 9 months back) effectively making him another dictator. While it is impossible to conduct elections during wartime, Zelensky appears to have no intent to bring the war to an end. The man who was once thought to be the next Churchill has fallen from grace significantly over the last 30 months. He needs to work on his emotional intelligence, pragmatism, and the ability to win wars by knowing when to let go. The more Zelensky resists and remains stubborn, the more the world will see him in a negative light, regardless of how wrong Putin may be. With Trump and Vance now acting as the bigger power brokers—and America, until Biden, being the major sponsor of the war—Russia, Europe, and Ukraine need to align with the American way of thinking and find a middle-ground agreement to bring peace.

Karthik

6th March 2025

930am. 

The Mystery of Unconditional Love: Why Women Love Without Asking Why (Lalitha)

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3rd March 2025, at Shravan Schoolmate's Wedding reception, Hotel Lalith Ashok, BLR. 

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Love has been explored through poetry, philosophy, and psychology for centuries, yet one recurring theme stands out—women often express love unconditionally, without a clear reason. The classic conversation goes like this:

Man: What do you like about me?

Woman: I don’t know, I just love you.

Even years later, if asked again, the answer remains the same. It’s as if a woman’s love exists beyond logic, beyond tangible attributes, and beyond conscious reasoning. This begs the question—why do women love men unconditionally while men often love with intent?

Is Women’s Love Truly Unconditional?

When a woman says she doesn’t know why she loves a man, it is not an evasion but an emotional truth. Unlike men, who tend to list reasons for their affection (a good wife, a nurturing mother, a strong partner, a trusted friend, or even a passionate companion), women often love without seeking a return on investment. But why?

1. Evolutionary Psychology: The Caregiver Instinct

From an evolutionary standpoint, women have been wired to nurture and sustain relationships. Historically, their role as caregivers ensured emotional security for their partners and offspring. This instinct extends to their relationships with men—creating an environment where love is freely given, with the hope of stability in return.

While men traditionally focused on protection and provision, women focused on emotional depth and connection. Over time, this dynamic reinforced the idea that a woman’s love does not demand a reason; it simply is.

2. Emotional vs. Transactional Love

Men often approach love with a sense of purpose. They seek compatibility in areas that fulfill their needs—a good partner, an advisor, a supporter, or a passionate lover. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to experience love as an intrinsic emotion rather than a checklist of qualities.

This difference explains why many women remain devoted even when their partners undergo changes—be it in appearance, ambition, or personality. While men may recalibrate their affections based on shifting circumstances, women tend to love despite them.

3. The Power of Emotional Investment

For many women, love is an investment of self. Once they are emotionally committed, they find it hard to detach—even when their partner’s actions no longer align with their expectations. This is why women often overlook signs of emotional neglect, misinterpreting a man’s growing distance as temporary or circumstantial.

Men, however, are more likely to evaluate relationships based on fulfillment. When a woman no longer provides the qualities that attracted him—whether it’s companionship, admiration, or emotional support—his love may dwindle. Women, by contrast, persist even when the dynamic changes.

4. Cultural and Social Conditioning

In societies like India, women are often raised with the idea that unwavering devotion is a virtue. The concept of pativrata—a woman devoted to her husband regardless of his shortcomings—has been ingrained for generations. Even in modern relationships, remnants of this mindset persist, where women feel that loving without conditions is not just an emotional choice but an expectation.

This explains why many women stay in relationships where love is not reciprocated in action. Even when a man’s behavior changes, they continue to love, assuming that he is merely distracted or that their patience will restore the bond.

5. The Blind Spot: Ignoring Signs of Fading Love

One of the most poignant aspects of unconditional love is a woman’s ability to not see when a man has emotionally checked out. Unlike men, who often recognize when their needs are no longer being met, women are more likely to rationalize a partner’s emotional withdrawal.

This is not naivety but rather a deep-seated emotional investment that makes it difficult to acknowledge the painful truth—that love is not always reciprocated in the same way.

Does This Serve Women Well?

While unconditional love sounds noble, it often comes at a cost. Women who love without expectations may:

• Tolerate emotional neglect or even mistreatment.

• Fail to recognize when a relationship has run its course.

• Continue investing in a partner who no longer values the connection.

In the Indian context, this is seen in women who stay in unfulfilling marriages or relationships long after the emotional core has eroded. Love, while unconditional, should not come at the expense of self-worth.

The Changing Dynamic: Is This Pattern Shifting?

With modern relationships evolving, women are beginning to approach love with greater self-awareness. Unlike past generations, where devotion was paramount, today’s women are recognizing the need for reciprocity.

As women gain financial independence, emotional resilience, and broader life choices, the notion of loving without expectation is gradually giving way to a more balanced dynamic—one where both partners contribute equally to the relationship’s emotional well-being.

A Personal Reflection: My Own Experience

This understanding of unconditional love became deeply personal to me as I am now  reading a game changing book, Don't Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen. He touches up on the topic of Unconditional love he receive(s) from girl friend over past 7 years. I realized that I have lived with this phenomenon for 35 years, Lalitha, has never been able to articulate why she loves me—her love simply is.

For over three decades of marriage (and seven months of courtship before that), whenever I have asked her why she loves me, her answer has been unwavering: "I don’t know, I just love you."

On the other hand, I can easily list at least ten reasons why I love her—her care, the warmth she brings as a mother to my kids, her role as a daughter-in-law, our companionship, and yes, even the simple pleasures of sharing food and intimacy. These are tangible aspects, and when any of them is missing, it naturally leads to a sense of dissatisfaction. And yet, her love for me has remained unshaken, despite our disagreements and divergent views on certain issues.

Experiencing this firsthand made me realize that this isn’t just a theory—it’s a deeply ingrained truth about how men and women love differently. While I have always loved with intent, she has always loved with heart. And perhaps, that is the greatest strength of unconditional love—it withstands reason, logic, and even the rough patches of life. Hahhahah! Will this stop the 40 Year Marriage Itch??? Let us see, still 5 years to go..

Final Thoughts: The Beauty and Challenge of Unconditional Love

The idea that women love unconditionally while men love with intent is both profound and complex. It highlights a fundamental difference in emotional wiring but also underscores an imbalance in how love is given and received.

Perhaps the ideal relationship is one where men learn to love with less intent and more heart, while women learn to balance their deep love with self-respect and awareness.

Love, after all, should not just be unconditional—it should be mutual.

Karthik

4th March 2025.

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Have you listend to JK Sax Saxophone ?... Boy! 700 videos, each a treasure to orginal song!! (The Sax mastero is from Vilnius, Lithuania, give a listen!). Most of the days 10am to 3pm, I play this as background music, as I work. (Happening now!!). 

Living Longer in India: Are We Happier or Just Older? My story too!

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Introduction: A Milestone That Raises Questions

This week, The Economist ran a thought-provoking piece about India’s journey over the past 75 years since independence. One number stood out: our life expectancy has jumped from a mere 42 years in 1947 to 71 years today—just a year shy of the global average of 72. It’s a proud moment, isn’t it? Better healthcare, improved nutrition, and economic growth have added nearly three decades to our lives. But here’s the catch—are we truly happier or more satisfied with these extra years? Or are we just living longer with more worries?

The truth is, as Indians live longer, the way we live is changing fast. The joint family system that once held us together is fading. Cities are growing, nuclear families are the norm, and fewer babies are being born. Soon, India will have more people over 60 than ever before—some say by 2050, one in five of us will be elderly. This shift is a double-edged sword. While the young sweat to keep the economy running, the old face loneliness, financial insecurity, and a rising cost of living. So, what’s the point of living longer if these uncertainties loom large? Let’s dig deeper into this, look at some numbers, and figure out what India—and all of us—can do about it.

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The Numbers Tell a Story

Let’s start with the facts. In 1947, when India became free, the average Indian lived to 42—barely enough time to see grandkids. Today, at 71, we’re close to the global average of 72 (World Health Organization, 2021). Compare this to other countries:

• Japan: 84 years—world leader, but with an aging crisis.
• USA: 77 years—wealthy, but healthcare costs are sky-high.
• China: 77 years—another big nation aging fast.
• Brazil: 76 years—a growing economy like ours, facing similar shifts.

Back home, the elderly population (60+) is exploding. In 2021, we had 138 million seniors, up from 104 million in 2011 (Government of India, 2021). By 2050, the UN predicts this will hit 347 million—20% of our population. That’s more people than the entire USA today! Meanwhile, our fertility rate has dropped from 6 kids per woman in the 1950s to just 2 now—below the replacement level of 2.1 (National Family Health Survey, 2019-21). Fewer kids mean fewer hands to care for the old.

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The Social Fabric: Unraveling Threads

Once, joint families were our strength. Grandparents lived with kids and grandkids under one roof—sharing stories, meals, and burdens. Today, urbanization has changed that. Cities like Mumbai, Delhi, and Bengaluru pull young people away for jobs, leaving parents behind in villages or small towns. Nuclear families—mum, dad, and maybe one or two kids—are now common. A 2023 UNFPA India Ageing Report says over 40% of elderly Indians are in the poorest wealth bracket, and one in five has no income. Add inflation—rising costs of food, rent, and medicine—and it’s a tough life.

Then there’s loneliness. Twenty years ago, joint families meant no one ate alone. Now, mental health issues are creeping in. A survey by HelpAge India found 30-50% of elderly folks show signs of depression, especially widows living solo. The old ways of community living are fading, and with them, the emotional safety net.

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The Economic Burden: Young vs. Old

Here’s another worry: who pays the bills? With more elderly and fewer young people, the “dependency ratio” (elderly per 100 working-age people) is climbing. It was 14.2% in 2011, hit 15.7% in 2021, and could reach 20.1% by 2031 (Government of India, 2021). The young are stretched thin—working hard, saving little, and supporting ageing parents. Meanwhile, less than 11% of elderly Indians have pensions (PRB, 2023). Inflation makes it worse—think of how dal and petrol prices keep shooting up. For the old, it’s a struggle to afford even basic healthcare.

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Are We Happier? The Big Question

Living to 71 is a win, but happiness isn’t guaranteed. The extra years come with uncertainties: Will I have enough money? Will my kids visit? Will I be healthy? A longer life feels empty if it’s spent worrying or alone. The Economist calls these “golden years,” but for many Indians, they’re turning grey with stress.

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Solutions: What Can We Do?

India’s 1.5 billion people make this a giant challenge—bigger than Japan’s 125 million or the USA’s 330 million. But other countries offer ideas we can adapt. Here’s what the Government of India, states, and NGOs can do, plus some lessons from abroad:

1. Strengthen Pensions and Savings
   • What India Can Do: Only a few states like Odisha and Rajasthan have near-universal pensions. The National Social Assistance Programme (NSAP) needs a revamp—higher amounts, wider reach. Start schemes where young people save early for old age, like Japan’s mandatory pension system.
   • Global Lesson: Japan’s elderly get solid pensions, letting them live with dignity. Nordic countries like Sweden mix public and private savings—everyone chips in from youth.
2. Affordable Healthcare for All
   • What India Can Do: Build more geriatric (old-age) clinics, especially in villages. Subsidize medicines and expand Ayushman Bharat to cover chronic diseases like diabetes, which 75% of elderly face (LASI Report, 2023).
   • Global Lesson: Germany’s public healthcare covers long-term care for seniors—India could partner with NGOs for similar outreach.
3. Fight Loneliness with Community
   • What India Can Do: Create “intergenerational hubs”—spaces where seniors and youth meet. Think community centres with storytelling, skill-sharing, or childcare by grandparents. Revive joint family vibes in a modern way.
   • Global Lesson: Singapore’s “intergenerational housing” puts young and old in shared spaces—fostering bonds. South Korea uses tech to connect seniors with families via apps.
4. Jobs for the Elderly
   • What India Can Do: 40% of seniors want to work “as long as possible” (HelpAge India). Offer part-time jobs or skill training—think tutoring, handicrafts, or gardening.
   • Global Lesson: The USA’s “Silver Expertise” programs hire retirees for mentorship—India’s startups could tap this wisdom.
5. Tackle Inflation and Costs
   • What India Can Do: Control prices of essentials—food, fuel, meds. Subsidize housing for the elderly, like Tamil Nadu’s old-age homes.
   • Global Lesson: Brazil caps utility bills for low-income seniors—India could try this for basics.
6. Mental Health Support
   • What India Can Do: Train counselors for elderly depression. NGOs can run helplines or “chai-and-chat” groups in every town.
   • Global Lesson: The UK’s “Befriending Networks” pair volunteers with lonely seniors—simple but effective.

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Learning from Others, Scaling for India

Japan, with 28% of its population over 65, invests in robots and tech for eldercare—India could explore affordable tech like telemedicine. Germany’s social insurance covers all ages—our EPF and NPS could expand similarly. The USA’s community programs keep seniors active—we could blend this with our culture of family ties. Yes, our 1.5 billion scale is unique, but small pilots in states like Kerala (already ageing fast) can show the way.

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The Way Forward: A Call to Action

Living longer is a gift, but it’s up to us to make it golden. The Government of India must act—boost pensions, build healthcare, and fight loneliness. States like Bihar (still young) and Kerala (already old) need tailored plans. NGOs, with their grassroots reach, can bridge gaps—think HelpAge India’s work during COVID. And we, as families and neighbors, must step up—visit our elders, listen to them, include them.

So, are we happier living longer? Not yet, maybe. But with smart moves, we can be. Let’s not just add years to life—let’s add life to those years. What do you think—how can we make this work in our homes, our India?

My Story: Facing the Future at 61

As I write this, I’m 61, living in Bangalore with my wife, Lalitha. Our kids are settled far away—too far for them to ever move back. My siblings? They’re scattered too, and since we’re not from Bangalore, catching up even once a year feels like a distant dream. So here we are, just the two of us, figuring out life on our own terms.

It’s not easy. I’ve spent decade building a business—manufacturing, the kind that needs me on my feet, traveling, meeting people. Physical work has been my fuel. But I know a day will come when my body says, “Enough!” Age creeps up, doesn’t it? And when that happens, how do I stay engaged? How do I keep my mind sharp, my spirit motivated? I’m a High D type—driven, independent, the “I don’t mind, you don’t matter” attitude. I can be an island, happy in my own world. But will that work when I’m 70? Will it be enough?

Mental health weighs on me too. Video calls with the kids and future grandkids are a blessing—technology keeps us close in a way. But it’s not the same as a hug, a shared meal, or their laughter filling the house. That flesh-and-blood touch? It’s fading. Bangalore isn’t helping either—traffic snarls, infrastructure chaos, and the urban mess make meeting friends or even stepping out a battle. In a decade, will I still have the energy to fight through it just to see a familiar face?

Yet, I’m not one to back down. Lalitha and I are resilient—positive, even. Old age is a challenge, sure, but I say, “Bring it on!” I’ve started small—gardening on our balcony, reading more, maybe even picking up a hobby like sketching (though I’m terrible at it!). I dream of a local “chai circle” where folks my age swap stories, or maybe mentoring young entrepreneurs with whatever wisdom I’ve got left. The trick, I think, is to keep moving—physically, mentally, emotionally—even when the world feels far away.

This is my story, but maybe it’s yours too. Living longer is a gift, but it’s up to us to fill those years with meaning. I don’t have all the answers yet. How about you—how will you face your golden years? Let’s figure it out together, one step at a time.

Karthik

3rd March 2025

9am.

What Indian Managers Can Learn from Global Leaders: A Perspective from Experience.....

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My wall at workdesk (2000-2012). The Picture at Top Left -Shravan 1999 worked and gave me. 

The recent meeting between Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky and American leaders Donald Trump and JD Vance at the White House has highlighted the nuances of multicultural engagements. Such interactions provide a valuable lens into the leadership styles and professional practices that define successful global professionals. For Indian managers, especially those who have not had the opportunity to work or engaged in overseas interactions, there are significant lessons to be learned from how leaders in global settings conduct themselves, make decisions, and drive results. Today in a globalised/ intertwined world, these are good to know stuff. 

Having worked with and observed professionals across various continents, I have noticed certain virtues that set them apart—practices that Indian managers can adopt to enhance effectiveness, efficiency, and long-term success.

1. Punctuality and Early Start to the Day

Time is a valuable resource, and successful leaders across the world respect it. American professionals, in particular, start their day very early, leveraging peak energy levels for maximum productivity. Indian managers can benefit immensely by adopting a structured and disciplined approach to time management.

2. Hands-on Approach and a Big-Picture Mindset

Global leaders and managers focus on understanding the broader vision rather than getting lost in micromanagement. They trust their teams to handle execution while ensuring alignment with strategic objectives. Indian managers must strike a balance between detail orientation and maintaining an overarching perspective.

3. Regular Coaching and One-on-One Feedback

A hallmark of strong leadership is staying connected with the team. Frequent coaching sessions and one-on-one discussions help leaders understand challenges, provide guidance, and drive performance. Indian managers often rely on annual appraisals; a shift to regular, informal feedback loops can significantly improve team alignment.

4. Cascading Goals for Organisational Alignment

Setting clear objectives and ensuring they cascade down the hierarchy ensures that everyone understands their role in achieving business goals. This practice fosters accountability and ownership at every level.

This 2006 frame exist even now, above my bed. Drives me for past 20 yrs. 

5. Results and Behaviour Alignment

Delivering results is crucial, but global professionals also emphasize the behaviours and values that drive these outcomes. In many global corporations, even if an employee meets targets but exhibits negative behaviour (e.g., poor teamwork or ethical concerns), their growth is stunted. Indian managers should integrate behavioural expectations into performance assessments.

6. Professional Boundaries in Personal Matters

While personal connections exist, most global professionals maintain a clear distinction between work and personal life. They show concern but do not let emotions interfere with decision-making. Indian managers, often deeply involved in personal aspects, can benefit from a balanced approach.

7. Praising in Public, Correcting in Private

Encouragement boosts morale, and leaders understand that public recognition enhances motivation. At the same time, constructive criticism is usually given privately. However, as seen in cases like Zelensky and Trump, public reprimands happen when necessary. Indian managers should adopt a culture of appreciation while addressing issues tactfully.

8. Direct, Honest Feedback

Effective leaders provide timely and straightforward feedback. The ‘sandwich method’ (mixing praise with areas for improvement) is commonly used to ensure employees feel valued while understanding where they need to improve. Indian managers can benefit by fostering a culture of open, honest, and constructive feedback.

9. The Power of Documentation

In global corporations, ‘if it is not documented, it is assumed not done.’ Clear documentation and communication ensure transparency, accountability, and clarity in decision-making. Indian managers often rely on verbal commitments; incorporating strong documentation habits will enhance organisational efficiency.

10. Structured Meetings and Calendar Discipline

Impromptu meetings are rare in professional global settings. Meetings are scheduled in advance, ensuring proper preparation and time management. Indian workplaces, where ad hoc discussions often disrupt workflow, can benefit from adopting structured scheduling practices.

11. No News is Bad News

In the global business environment, silence on critical issues is considered a red flag. Proactive communication is expected, especially when challenges arise. Indian managers should encourage transparent communication to avoid last-minute crises.

12. Encouraging a Questioning and Challenging Attitude

Healthy debate and intellectual discussions are encouraged in high-performing teams. No idea is dismissed outright; employees are encouraged to challenge perspectives and propose solutions. Indian managers should foster an environment where questioning is seen as a sign of engagement rather than insubordination.

13. Risk-Based Thinking

Effective leaders assess decisions from a risk perspective—considering financial, operational, and human resources factors—and develop mitigation plans. This approach helps in proactive problem-solving rather than reactive firefighting.

14. Meeting Deadlines with Clear Communication

Deadlines are sacrosanct in global workplaces. If there’s a risk of missing them, proactive communication is expected well in advance. Indian managers can benefit by enforcing stricter deadline adherence and ensuring timely updates to stakeholders.

Embracing Best Practices for Success

As someone who has worked with professionals across Europe, Asia, North America, Australia, and Latin America, I can confidently say that successful organisations seek employees who embody these traits. Indian managers who incorporate these global best practices will not only elevate their leadership effectiveness but also drive sustained business success.

The meeting between Zelensky, Trump, and JD Vance at the White House is a reminder of how global leadership interactions shape decision-making, diplomacy, and professional engagement. In today’s globalised corporate environment, learning from such interactions is crucial. By integrating these learnings, Indian managers can build stronger, more efficient, and globally competitive teams. The world is evolving, and adopting proven leadership strategies will ensure that Indian professionals are well-equipped to thrive in an increasingly competitive landscape.

My Personal Traits Picked Up from Corporate Life

1. I wake up at 3 AM and hit work by 8 AM, making the most of my energy levels. I benefited immensely from feedback from my managers/ peers/ colleagues. The reward is so enriching. They were never afraid to speak their mind. 

2. Calendar management is key—everything actionable is scheduled.

3. All my engagements, including calls (even family calls), have an agenda and expectations sent out clearly well in advance. Surprises however joyful are irksome for me. 

4. I set annual personal and professional goals, review them at year-end, and share them with key opinion-makers who influence me.  

5. My results orientation is not just about what is achieved but how it is approached and executed—this is a sacrosanct activity for me.

6. As a father and consultant, I know my red lines even in family matters, and maintain clear professional and personal boundaries.

7. My objective is to praise people as much as possible—people come to work with good intentions, and any fault from their end usually stems from a lack of communication by the organisation or the supervisor. Blame fixes nothing; mistakes are part of life.

8. Radical candor is key—yes, it may appear insulting, but that’s reality. Take it, get on, move on, and grow a thick skin.  As a High "D" I DON'T MIND-YOU DON'T MATTER. 

9. Challenging the status quo and defying norms is my hallmark. I have always believed in bending the law and breaking the rules—if you excel in delivering results, no one cares about the path you took.

10. Everything in life involves risk (even marriage and relationships), so mitigating risk with a solid plan and measurable, results-oriented actions is essential. 

Karthik

2nd March 2024. 

Even Homer Nods: Handling a Bad Day at Work and Life with Grace........

 #626

There comes a time when even the most disciplined and composed among us face a bad day. For some, it may be a rare event—once in a decade at work, perhaps—but in personal life, it is more frequent. The unexpected mishap, the forgotten commitment, or an unforeseen challenge can set off emotions ranging from frustration to outright rage. It happened to me today.

Our wedding day 18/1/25. (Boquet from the 4 Children, hahahh! As Radhu would say-" I do all the hard work of ordering+ Payout; I ought to write other 3 names (Shr, San, Esh)" ehheheheh!!) 

As someone who is a stickler for time, Clockwork routine, I expect precision in everything and I excel in that. (Traits of High "D", + Sagitarian)  This morning, my well-established routine was disrupted—Lalitha forgot to give me my protein drink at 6 AM sharp, (Her Parents arrived 530am and she was engrossed in catching up) and it only arrived at 7 AM. That hour of delay during my morning walk, felt like an eternity, ( I was hungry, having had my Black coffee at 3am; hunger, takes you to uncharted frontiers) throwing my rhythm off. Was it a life-altering event? Certainly not. But in that moment, it felt significant, and I was livid. Yet, I held my tongue, ( I am becoming a matured person with Appreciation/ gratitude) though my face betrayed my disappointment.

Even leaders at the highest levels have bad days. Take this past week for President Trump—several avoidable blunders put him in an uncomfortable position. The Epstein file release fiasco caught  AG, Pam Bondi off guard when she naively trusted the FBI report, only to be blindsided later. The awkward meeting with President Zelensky at the White House didn’t do him or America, any favours. Then came the contentious White House press access issue, raising concerns about selective media admissions—a dangerous precedent if left unchecked. Not a great week for POTUS. But as the saying goes, ‘Even Homer nods’—even the best have missteps.

So, how do we handle bad days?

The key to managing such moments lies in self-awareness, patience, and proactive strategies. Here are a few ways to keep your balance when things go off track:

1) Accept that people make mistakes.

No one is immune to errors. Forgetfulness, oversight, or simple human limitations will lead to occasional missteps. While consistency and discipline are great traits, expecting perfection from others 100% of the time is unrealistic. Instead of assigning blame, recognize that mistakes are often unintentional. Learning to let go of minor grievances can save a lot of unnecessary stress. 

2) Never react in the heat of the moment.

When frustration peaks, the instinct is to lash out—whether through words, body language, or tone. But reacting immediately often worsens the situation. Today, despite my irritation, I chose not to say anything to Lalitha. She realized her mistake, felt apologetic, and a moment of anger could have needlessly soured our morning. The golden rule: when upset, pause. Take a deep breath, hold back impulsive words, and let the moment pass. It’s better to speak with a clear mind than to regret words spoken in haste.

3) Have an open discussion on how to avoid such situations.

The best way to prevent repeated issues is through honest, constructive conversations. Lalitha and I will likely talk later about how to ensure such oversights don’t happen again—not as a blame game, but as a practical way forward. Whether at home or work, simple discussions on expectations and routines can help streamline daily interactions and reduce friction.

4) Honest, candid, and frank conversations lead to solutions.

Effective communication isn’t about assigning fault; it’s about finding solutions. "Seek First to Understand than to be Understood" In the workplace, a bad day can be turned into a learning experience by addressing what went wrong and setting corrective measures. If Trump’s team had a better crisis response strategy, the Epstein file release fiasco could have been handled more deftly. If the White House had a clear policy on press access, unnecessary controversies could have been avoided. The same applies in personal life—when missteps happen, talk openly and honestly. Find ways to fix things rather than dwell on the mistake.

Fool Me Once, Shame on You; Fool Me Twice, Shame on Me

A bad day should be an exception, not a pattern. The goal is not just to handle these situations gracefully but to learn from them. If the same issues recur, then corrective action is necessary. Planning, foresight, and structured conversations can help prevent repeated missteps.

Life is too precious to be derailed by momentary frustrations. A delayed protein drink, an awkward press event, or an oversight at work may cause irritation, but in the grand scheme of things, they are mere blips. The ability to absorb setbacks, respond rationally, and move forward with a lesson learned is what separates those who are effective in life from those who are merely reactive.

So, the next time life throws an unexpected challenge your way, take a deep breath, assess, discuss, and move on. Because even Homer nods, but he always gets back up and continues his journey. I think today's misstep at home could bring me and Lalitha even closer, as has happened many times before. I always tell her, "More we have missteps/ conflicts- More we are getting closer"!! 

Karthik

1st March 2025. (Boy 2 months of the year gone!!)

915am. 

Going from 0 to 1 on a Journey to 100

 #625. (25 Squared!). 

My Personal story is at the end. Have you ever noticed how people enthusiastically agree on what they want to achieve—whether it’s in their personal life or career—but when you ask them “How would you move from 0 to 1?”, there’s stunned silence? The energy deflates like a balloon losing air. I had seen this countless times at both at home and work front. Hence this blog.  The desire to reach 100 is strong, but the ability to take the first step—that crucial move from 0 to 1—is where most people get stuck. It’s not that they lack capability or intelligence. It’s simply that they haven’t broken down the process into something actionable.

So, how do you go from 0 to 1 and then scale to 100? Here’s the way I see it:

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1. Define the End Goal Clearly

It all begins with clarity. If you don’t know what success looks like, how will you measure progress?

• What do you want to accomplish?

• Why is this important to you?

• What would ‘100’ look like in this journey?

Many people falter here because they have a vague idea of what they want but haven’t articulated it well. The more precise your goal, the easier it is to chart a path.

Example: If you want to lose weight, don’t just say, “I want to be fit.” Define it: “I want to lose 10 kg in six months by following a structured fitness and diet plan.”

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2. Brainstorm the Path to Begin

Once you have the destination in mind, the next challenge is figuring out how to start. This is where brainstorming without judgment helps. Many people dismiss ideas too early, thinking, “That won’t work,” or “That’s too slow.” But at this stage, no idea is a bad idea.

Ask yourself:

• What are all the possible ways I could start?

• Are there different speeds or approaches? (fast, slow, structured, chaotic?)

• Who has done this before? What can I learn from them?

Tip: Writing down all ideas, no matter how wild, helps uncover the simplest first step.

Example: If you want to start writing blogs, don’t worry about perfection. Just list ideas, pick one, and write a short paragraph. The act of starting is more important than getting it right.

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3. Work in Small, Measurable Steps

The easiest way to move forward is by focusing on small wins. The momentum from these tiny victories propels you forward.

• Break the journey into micro-steps.

• Focus on daily, visible progress.

• Make sure the steps are so small you cannot fail.

Example: If you’re learning a new language (like I am with Spanish), don’t aim to master the grammar on Day 1. Just learn 5 new words a day. By the end of a month, you know 150 words. Small steps compound into big results.

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4. Keep Metrics – What Gets Measured Gets Done

Numbers don’t lie. Tracking progress keeps motivation high and gives a reality check.

• Define key metrics (weight lost, books read, workouts done, blog posts written, etc.).

• Use a simple tracker (journal, app, spreadsheet) to measure growth.

• Set review checkpoints (weekly or monthly) to assess progress.

Example: If your goal is fitness, measure not just weight but also consistency—how many days you exercised in a month. Tracking effort keeps you accountable even when results are slow.

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5. Celebrate Success (However Small!)

Most people only celebrate when they hit 100, but the secret to staying motivated is recognizing the small victories along the way.

• Completed one blog? Celebrate.

• Walked daily for a week? Celebrate.

• Learned five Spanish phrases? Celebrate.

Acknowledging progress keeps the journey enjoyable. Without this, burnout sets in before real success arrives.

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Scaling from 1 to 100

Once you hit 1, you’ve proven that starting is possible. Now, it’s about scaling up gradually:

1. Move from 1 to 10 by making the process repeatable.

2. From 10 to 50, build efficiency and remove bottlenecks.

3. From 50 to 100, optimize and sustain long-term success.

By the time you reach 100, the habits you’ve built will ensure you don’t fall back to 0.

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Final Thoughts: The Power of Starting

Everything significant in life—career success, health transformation, writing, business—begins with one step. The hardest part is always the first move. But once you get the wheel turning, momentum takes over.

So, ask yourself:

• What’s one thing you’ve been postponing because the start seems overwhelming?

• What’s the smallest possible step you can take today to move from 0 to 1?

Take that step. And then take another. Before you know it, you’ll be on your way to 100.

My Personal Move from 0 to 1 – 1990: My Marriage

When I decided to get married in mid 1990, I had a very clear idea that my spouse would be a homemaker, willing to move with me to North India (at that time), and don't crib about seeing her mom and pop often, and I set clear expectations. I put all these expectations in an A3 document and asked my parents to circulate it to potential matches, which they did. (Lalitha still has that A3—two pages, back to back- now brittle).

Many of my conditions would not suit 99% of women today. But I was clear—my 0 to 1 was making that A3 document. Things then moved... She was the first girl I saw. (It needs courage and common sense to say Yes to my requirements, so I can't push my luck any further....hahahhhahahah!) 

Ironically, five years after marriage, I moved back to South India—a decision I never dreamed of when I initially moved north 11 years earlier. Nothing is permanant but change.

That’s life.

Karthik

27th Feb 2025. 

Embracing Uncertainty: My 40-Year Journey of Overcoming Challenges

 #623

Life’s No Fun Without Challenges!

As I reflect this week on four decades since finishing college, my mind races back to the challenges I have faced—personal, professional, and those that appeared out of nowhere, demanding instant decisions. At 3 a.m., today, when my Apple Watch prompted me to look back, on challenges I faced, I found myself reliving those pivotal moments that defined my journey. Challenges, after all, are manifestations of the unknown and uncertainty. But through experience, I have learned that by leveraging the known and the certain, solutions often present themselves. The key lies in deciphering the unknown by linking it to what we already know and crafting a plan to navigate through it.

The Framework for Overcoming Challenges

Every challenge can be broken down into four steps:

1. Reframe the challenge – View the problem in different contexts, relate it to known aspects, and explore patterns from past experiences.

2. Identify possible solutions – Brainstorm executable ideas, draw from successful strategies, and seek inspiration from thought leaders. Seek Help, Asking for help is a sign of strength. (Indians don't do this much sadly). 

3. Take action – Execution is key. Without implementation, without deadlines, ideas remain abstract. Deadline is what drives you to keep you motivated as well as committment/trust you put to yourself and others! You miss a deadline, you are a living corpse. PERIOD. 

4. Sustain the execution – Commitment ensures that solutions are not temporary fixes but long-term transformations.

This approach has helped me time and again in overcoming hurdles, from professional crossroads to personal crises.

Moments That Defined My Resilience

1. Health Scare in 2005 – A serious wake-up call that reshaped my approach to well-being, making me realise that preventive care is not optional but essential. 

2. 9/11 in Lahore – A crisis that reinforced my belief in thinking on my feet and staying calm in unpredictable situations.

3. Leaving Ingersoll Rand Abruptly on 10th August 2012 at 11:30 AM – A decision I made mere minutes before a meeting, with no prior clue that I would walk out that day. It was a classic case of listening to my inner voice and acting decisively in seconds.

The first step in overcoming a challenge is to look for the hidden opportunity within it. Ask: What is the end outcome I want? Then, shift the focus to What’s in it for others? By seeking a win-win solution, challenges become stepping stones rather than roadblocks.

My 10-Point Uncertainty Manifesto: My True North

Over the years, I have worked out a structured manifesto that guides me through uncertain times. Lalitha, my lifelong companion, concurs with most of it (though she is still skeptical about my theory of the 40-year marriage itch—another five years to go, so we shall see! Haha!).

This manifesto is inspired by foundational principles, including The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Dr. Stephen Covey, and incorporates practical wisdom that has served me well:

1. Accept Uncertainty as Inevitable – Nothing in life is set in stone. Embrace it.

2. Focus on What You Can Control – Stop worrying about the uncontrollable and channel energy into actionable areas.

3. Reframe Problems Positively – Instead of seeing a crisis, see a transformation opportunity.

4. Take Decisive Action – Procrastination magnifies uncertainty.

5. Develop a Plan, But Be Ready to Pivot – Rigidity is a killer; adaptability is a lifesaver.

6. Surround Yourself with the Right People – Trusted mentors and support systems make a difference. Empower them to give brutal / radical candor feedback. (Lalitha/ Radha excel at this! Amazing most women do tough, straight talking to my face I love it. Men don't I wonder why!?)

7. Trust Your Instincts, But Validate with Facts – A mix of intuition and data-driven decisions works best.

8. Embrace Lifelong Learning – The more knowledge you acquire, the better you handle uncertainty.

9. Stay Optimistic – Confidence and positivity are critical survival tools.

10. Remember: This Too Shall Pass – No challenge lasts forever.

Lessons for Life & Work

By applying these principles, I have not only navigated uncertain times but thrived through them. Whether in business, relationships, or personal goals, I have learned that overcoming challenges is a matter of perspective, strategy, and execution.

To my readers: Challenges will always be there. What matters is how you face them. Embrace them, decode them, and execute your way out of them. After all, life would be dull without uncertainty!

Regards
Karthik

25th Feb 2025

930am.

Boy Today is George Harrision Birth Anniversary, What a man!! He would have been 82, still good to live. George died 2001, November, due to Lung cancer.!! Yellow Submarine, My Guitar gently weeps are his master class. He is also a fabulos Sitar Player.!!! Embraced a lot of Hindu/Indian way of life. 

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Why Do We Criticize More Than We Praise? A Shift Towards Positive Reinforcement....

 #622

Personal updates: 1) Had a fantastic time yesterday with my cousin Gandhi Mohan, who visited with his family from Natal, Brazil. He was here in December, 2023 for the first time in 35 years, and this time, he brought his son, daughter, and their friend on their first visit to India. They had an incredible two-week trip exploring the country.

The three hours we spent together just flew by, with so much to catch up on by others with five of them, I took a back seat, knowing I can always connect with him virtually in the coming times. It was also great catching up with my other cousins in Bangalore—something that doesn’t happen often, thanks to the city’s notorious traffic! I even adjusted my Business travel plans to Bombay last week just to be back in time to spend quality time with them. Well worth it!

Heather Jennings (Front Middle), Gandhi Mohan (Standing 2nd left), Clarice Oliveria (Friend) Avicenan (Son- Brazil T shirt) and Rumichandra (Daughter- Red dress). With other cousins and Nephew. 

2) My brother and his family got their U.S. B1 visa in just 10 days! I had casually mentioned to him, “Why don’t you have one?” (I always have a Plan B for everything!). It took just two weeks for the U.S. Consulate in Muscat, Oman—where he resides—to process and issue the visa.

In contrast, getting a U.S. visa appointment in India takes a minimum of 450 days! Plus, unlike the long-winded process here, everything in Muscat—fingerprinting, scanning, and the interview—was done within minutes. What a difference!

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Context for the blog. This video. + I see more critisicm of things happening around, and not able to appreciate positivies by folks, in my interactions, so the blog. 

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to point out what’s wrong, yet we often overlook what’s right? Whether at home, in the workplace, or in public life, our natural inclination seems to be toward identifying mistakes rather than appreciating successes. We laugh, criticize, and comment when others fail, yet we rarely acknowledge when something is done correctly. Why does this happen? And what would change if we flipped this mindset?

The Negativity Bias: Why We See Faults First

Psychologists have long studied the ‘negativity bias’—our brain’s tendency to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. This is rooted in survival instincts; historically, being hyper-aware of dangers helped our ancestors avoid threats. However, in today’s world, this negativity bias often manifests in unnecessary criticism, undermining relationships, teamwork, and morale.

At work, for instance, an employee who consistently delivers good results may go unnoticed, but the moment they make an error, it is highlighted and scrutinized. In families, a spouse’s small mistakes—forgetting an errand, making a minor oversight—are remembered, while the countless acts of care and support are taken for granted. This tendency creates an environment where people feel undervalued, fostering resentment rather than motivation.

The Default Expectation: When Right Becomes Invisible

One key reason for this imbalance is that we expect good performance and correct actions to be the ‘default state.’ We assume that people should do things correctly, whether it’s a well-executed project at work or a smooth family gathering. But when something goes wrong, it disrupts our expectations, drawing our attention.

Yet, this expectation is flawed. Even when people perform well, it requires effort, skill, and dedication. The absence of mistakes does not mean success should be ignored; rather, it should be acknowledged and reinforced. When we fail to recognize the right, we inadvertently create an environment where only failure gets attention, leaving people feeling demotivated.

Praise More, Criticize Less: A New Approach

Marshall Goldsmith, in his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, lists 20 annoying habits that hold professionals back. One of them is our constant need to ‘add value’—to correct, improve, or tweak something even when it’s unnecessary. While we may think we’re being helpful, this often annoys others and diminishes their enthusiasm. Instead of always trying to fix things, sometimes the best approach is to let things be and acknowledge what’s working.

So how can we break the habit of over-criticizing and under-praising?

1. Be intentional with praise: Make a conscious effort to notice and appreciate the positive. At work, recognize effort and good results, even in small tasks. In relationships, acknowledge acts of kindness and reliability.

2. Praise in public, reprimand in private: When correction is needed, do it discreetly. Public criticism embarrasses and demotivates, while public praise boosts morale and reinforces good behavior.

3. Practice restraint: Not every situation requires a comment. If it’s not a major issue, sometimes it’s best to let things go rather than constantly correct or critique.

4. Balance feedback: When constructive criticism is necessary, balance it with recognition of what’s been done well. People are more receptive to feedback when they feel valued overall.

Shifting the Culture: Leading by Example

Creating a culture of appreciation starts with individuals. Leaders, parents, colleagues, and friends can all contribute by consciously choosing to highlight the good rather than focusing solely on the bad. This shift doesn’t mean ignoring mistakes—it means ensuring that the positive isn’t overshadowed by the negative.

A well-placed word of encouragement can be more powerful than a hundred corrections. By shifting our mindset to appreciate more and criticize less, we can build stronger relationships, foster motivation, and create an environment where people feel valued and empowered. After all, when people feel seen for their efforts, they naturally strive to do better—not out of fear of criticism, but from the joy of being acknowledged.

Let’s start today: Who can you praise right now?

A Personal Reflection

My personal experience has been that I owe my career trajectory as well as personal life to the praise I received from peers, managers, friends, and family members. The opportunities to improve that came my way were also a great value add. That way, I felt inspired, motivated, and engaged to do my best. When people put trust in you, you live up to it.

Oh yes, being a Sagittarian, I rarely listen unless I am aligned with what I want to hear! So when feedback starts with positives, I align well, and then the improvements follow, making me feel it’s okay—I should contemplate changes. This approach has helped me grow tremendously, and I believe it can work wonders for anyone willing to embrace it.

Karthik

24/2/25

9am.